Remember the movie, 'When In Rome', about a young career woman named Beth who made a wish at the Trevi fountain when she was conflicted about meeting the right man. Having walked away from my own tragic romance, Rome was the place to go. I'll have to tell you that story later. But also, who 'walks away' from a tragic romance by flying to 3 countries? This girl.
Rome is incredible.
Get ready for an amazing time. First let me start off by saying that at luggage claim, I witnessed an Italian girl who thought she lost her luggage, and suddenly ran to my section of the luggage claim, found it and cried out with laughter, "Mama mia!!!". Yes, that happened. I thought, 'Nooooooo....she didn't.' And one experience after the other, quickly fell in love with the people.
I've been to Sicily before, but like any other country, each area is different in Italy. I also learned that culturally, there are divisions among people depending on the area. Those from Milan, I heard, are more aristocratic than those from Rome. The similarity is how stylish everyone is. Some of these chics walk around on cobblestone in heels! I'm not that talented. I recommend you take comfortable flats or walking shoes. It can get chilly in the evening so bring a scarf or shawl / light sweater. The Renaissance-era center of the city has beautiful structures including the Pantheon, with plenty of laid-back dining. This is where I spent my time introspecting and getting my thoughts together before heading home so of course I brought my journal.
Hit the Streets
Walking around in Rome can be hectic but I highly recommend you just stride and stop by to grab small bites here and there to taste different things. You'll see little shops that you can just walk into and pick up food. Definitely have some gelato and street pizza!
Of course, be mindful of your things, especially when walking around at night. I stick with a cross body handbag that I can hold in front of me. I'm not typically paranoid so I don't hide my money in my bra or anything like that, LOL. Especially here, I didn't see the need. Men will hang around and stare if you're alone, obviously. I made it a point to just be friendly and say hi to people I encountered. Clearly, I am one in the sea of tourists with a camera.
2nd to soccer, shopping is the sport of the Italians. I really only bought jewelry, souvenirs for friends and family and this iconic Italia sweater below. Check out the shops inside Galleria Alberto Sordi. There are also little small shops around. Seriously this Italia sweater is so comfy and keeps you so warm, I love it. The first time I bought one was in Sicily when I didn't go prepared with a jacket. As freezing as it was in that hill top the jacket kept me super warm as though I was wearing a heavy coat! I picked up two in Rome and gifted one to my little sis. This is what it looks like, and they have different options for colors:
DINNER ALONE & MY RELATIONSHIP TIP: "THE RATE OF EXCHANGE"
I booked to have a nice dinner out. I went to Baccano Ristorante, it was very delicious. I did not sit at the bar though, which is easier to do when you're alone because you get to meet people. I didn't really want to talk to anyone and just enjoy the moment and have conversations with God. So I faced an empty chair. Break ups are hard, especially when you feel you invested so much and were left with nothing. I spoke to a good guy friend prior to this trip, and here is something he shared with me which I have applied and shared with other women. I've termed it 'THE RATE OF EXCHANGE'.
He said, "If I gave you $5 and you turned around and gave me $10, I would never leave. I'd stay - or leave, then come back and know that I'll always get more than I give."
THE RATE OF EXCHANGE
This is how I expanded on it: If you give the guy $10 (100% commitment, time, energy, etc) every time he gives you $5 (50%), he's going to keep coming back. True. The guy would realize you may even end up paying him double, $20, when he gives you the same $5 - with time. And that is what you're doing when you give more in a relationship than you get. And often, women stay stuck there for a long time, without any real commitment from him over years time. You would never engage in that type of exchange when it comes to money - it's illogical and unreasonable. So don't do it with the more valuable things in life, your heart, your love, your mind, your time, your energy - your soul. That's why many women are left feeling like they've lost themselves after a damaging relationship.
Step back, write down the facts.
Consider 'The Rate of Exchange'.
Make a good decision your future self will thank you for.
"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." Proverbs 4:23
During my dinner with God, I had a solid time of prayer too. And when I was done, I walked away and left those private concerns in the streets of Rome.